tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6227616579829607218.post3881399608197172618..comments2023-11-07T04:30:27.093-08:00Comments on Full Spectrum Mama: Need…Help…Full Spectrum Mamahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11460737436704927666noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6227616579829607218.post-1840013970140193722012-06-30T09:21:30.200-07:002012-06-30T09:21:30.200-07:00Love this idea, suggested via email by a wise man:...Love this idea, suggested via email by a wise man: "I don't know but would it sometimes be helpful to Z for you to say, "I need to find a way to get us out of this trap"?"Full Spectrum Mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11460737436704927666noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6227616579829607218.post-78988374278119096972012-06-21T11:56:53.902-07:002012-06-21T11:56:53.902-07:00You're a beauty angel :)You're a beauty angel :)Full Spectrum Mamahttp://fullspectrummama.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6227616579829607218.post-47937887906428732062012-06-21T06:21:12.322-07:002012-06-21T06:21:12.322-07:00I LOVE YOU! HELPFUL! SMART! MAMA!I LOVE YOU! HELPFUL! SMART! MAMA!madelinohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01752887397813738978noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6227616579829607218.post-12230416295301604742012-06-19T10:01:48.288-07:002012-06-19T10:01:48.288-07:00Also, working on that kind of FLEXIBILITY and evol...Also, working on that kind of FLEXIBILITY and evolving...Full Spectrum Mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11460737436704927666noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6227616579829607218.post-84699023544065975112012-06-18T07:49:05.978-07:002012-06-18T07:49:05.978-07:00Very nicely put ;)
I would *hope* that on the *out...Very nicely put ;)<br />I would *hope* that on the *outside* I am a tension-decreaser; internally, though, I feel these outbursts for days. And yes, she just gets it OUT!<br />I, too, continue.<br />LoveFull Spectrum Mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11460737436704927666noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6227616579829607218.post-55390655628824981902012-06-18T07:38:45.502-07:002012-06-18T07:38:45.502-07:00Hey! You might want to look at AskMoxie's writ...Hey! You might want to look at AskMoxie's writings about tension increasers versus tension decreasers. Your statement that "the rest of us" would be upset for hours, I think, means you're a tension increaser. But that might not be the case with Z. <br /><br />In my limited experience, I basically have to change parenting techniques about every three months. Whatever was the issue and whatever worked to deal with changes that quickly. He grows, is dealing with different things, the seasons change, life happens. <br /><br />Which is my way of saying, I'm not surprised that you need to switch from the phrase once it's worn out its usefulness.<br /><br />While I know our situations are very different, I have to tell you I am on a full-court press right now to get my little guy to ask for things nicely. I'm just sick of the demanding (and the whining). "Do this!" Ugh. So I'm like a broken record, "Could you please ask nicely?" "That's not really asking nicely." "I want to help, but it's hard for me when you don't ask nicely" and of course the rare "That was really nicely asked. Good job!"<br /><br />I have a lot of ambivalence about this, but it's a genuine response to my feeling put-upon. He needs to learn how to ask things so people will want to help him. So I continue.Elysiahttp://fillingcalix.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.com