Sensory processing differences make Blankets a
big challenge for some. While my son, G, uses the same comforter year-round and
is steaming in the summer and cool in the winter and “Mom, don’t bother me
about this,” and my daughter, Z, always varies her blanket layers flawlessly for
the “just right” amount, I am one of
those people.
Here is a mere sampling of Potential Blanket
Problems: improper weight, inadequate warmth, itchy, scratchy wool, side-to-side
slippage, smallness, bottom-to-top slippage…Rilke said, “A work of art is good
if it has arisen out of necessity”* -- so I’ve made a visual aid for those who
might be unaware of the true scope of this topic.
Figure I – Issues in Blankets
For so long, at night, while trying to sleep or
go back to sleep under Blanket(s) that just could not get right, I practiced
thinking “peaceful” thoughts and feeling peaceful…In fact, for most of my life
I have had an overarching goal of “achieving” “peace.”
A few months ago, I realized:
- I didn’t get one
of those kinds of lives,
and
- Even if I had,
my high physical and emotional sensitivities (SPD) would prevent total,
utter “peace.”
So I decided on more realistic goals – goals that
are worthy and sometimes a stretch but that I’ve for the most part been actually reaching; goals that make me
happy (versus defeated) to think about…:
They are:
To practice living with
1.
much KINDNESS
and
2.
a mighty SENSE
OF HUMOR.
So, now, when sleepless, I try (instead of
perseverating on why I am not as “peaceful” or “asleep” as I should be)
chuckling quietly to myself and, VERY kindly, I do not smack my peacefully
sleeping husband. No, I am kidding about the chuckling. But it does help, with
my particular neurology and bed-ology, to go for the gentle humor of it all instead
of something overly elusive…
I haven’t even discussed mattresses, sheets,
and pillows – or sharing a bed.
Love, and a big, sweet, slightly maniacal smile,
Full Spectrum Mama
*Rainer Maria Rilke, Letters to a Young Poet (Stephen Mitchell translation)
Thanks for once again touching on such an important topic! I myself am also very particular about my blankets. Even in the heat of a Florida summer, I have to have my heavy comforter at night in order to sleep. My husband, however, sleeps with only a sheet at night (which means more comforter for me, thus avoiding the exposed sheet issue). My son is a blanket lover like me and even now we are currently snuggled under one, even though it is easily 70 degrees outside. Good luck on your quest for kindness and a sense of humor!
ReplyDeleteLOL - I was JUST suggesting to @JennyEvolution that we MOVE to Florida for sensory/clothing issues!
DeleteI HIGHLY approve of your blanket snuggling in 70 degrees. What's better?
Love,kindness and laffs for us all,
FSM
Yes, come on down, the weather is lovely! :)
Delete*like*
DeleteI also am particular to a blanket. Certain type of material. It helps me fall asleep. My family used to joke if I planned on carrying it down the aisle when I got married and my reply was "no...but I'm taking it on the honeymoon." Oh...and I don't like to share it.
ReplyDelete....Would you be willing to share...the material-type? ;)
DeleteAlways on a quest for good blankies,
FSM
I too have blanket issues. There are times when I have to just keep my feet completely out of the cover and I can't be tucked in....no way.
ReplyDeleteWhoa.
DeleteI'm really disturbed right now.
That is VERY dangerous. And uncomfortable.
We are going to have to agree to disagree on this.
Love,
FSM
I love this! Blankets have always been my issue as well. Have you ever tried a weighted one? Sensory friendly paradise. Hugs :)
ReplyDeleteWe just switched to the heavy duvet - heaven. Except...well, sometimes it gets a little ...hot.
DeleteBut I have long thought weighted could work. Unless it's...chemical-y.
Oh boy. You understand ;)
Love,
FSM
The next time I wake up at 2am to worry about all of the things I didn't do, need to do, want to do, should do, can't do, and wish I could do (my usual routine), I will chuckle….or at least try. Very good advice.
ReplyDeleteI find it's sometimes kind of funny just to THINK about chuckling, you know? especially with all that we carry...
DeleteLove,
FSM
Your drawing cracked me up: just perfect! My type-A personality really gets you. I'm one of those people who cuts the tags out of my own clothing because they're itchy and scratchy.
ReplyDeleteGreat new goals that, from what I can tell, you're already achieving. :)
Trying, trying, Mommy C - but one thing to be wary of with these is to try not to get too type-A and high strung INSIDE, amidst all the exterior kindness and humor ;)
DeleteWhen we got my oldest son his first weighted blanket, it was like magic! He needed something to hold him down to the bed (ha!) and this did the trick. It was made from fleece on one side and cotton fabric on the other so he could choose which side he wanted. It falls under the "best purchase ever" category!
ReplyDeleteDROOLING!!!!
DeleteLove,
FSM
Very well done! Absolutely brilliant information.
ReplyDeleteI used the insomnia blanket for sleeping problem and its really helpful to relieve the anxiety problem and help to sleep better. I bought my Insomnia Weighted Blanket from calming moments australia. There are awesome and fast service provider. Very cooperative on phone calls.